Friday, July 8, 2011

How does this "Self-honoring" thing look?

Embarking on this journey to choose self-honoring, sounds great, but it begs an answer to a question that hit me right away, what the hell is "Self-honoring"?  I think anyone could get slippery when setting out on a "Self-honoring" goal, and say that anything is "Self-honoring".  Sleeping in 10 minutes, taking the scenic route home, reading for 10 minutes, etc.  These are quite possibly all "Self-honoring", however they feel very small to me. Small is fine, and still important, however, I do not want to base the context of my goal on "small".

What I came to realize was that "Self-honoring" is whatever one's "Self" believes it to be, or whatever truly "Honors" me.  Therefore, I am the Judge, Jury, and Executioner when it comes to whether or not I truly have honored myself.

The good news is that I have an entire team of individuals that know me very well, that will hold me accountable to whether through this, as well as at the end of this 7 weeks, I am a changed man, or if I have just done enough to "get by".  And I ask, why would anyone want to use this opportunity to "get by", when an entirely more fulfilling life awaits me for just stepping into an area I generally choose out of.

So, what all this means to me is, my definition of "Self-honoring" is consciously choosing to treat myself.  I could very easily make this a "task operation" and miss the whole point.  If I choose not to be present, choose not to enjoy, choose the experience to "suck", then I will get the results I'm choosing, and it is NOT "Self-honoring".

I ask all that know me, and are following this story to call me out on this as well.  If I let you know that I HAD to go golfing today, or later I NEED to get a massage, or that yesterday's 2 hour lunch with an old friend MADE me late to a meeting, then I would ask you to remind me that those hours do not count towards my 75 hours of "Self-honoring" time.  Clearly, in those cases, it did not change me, and therefore was not "Self-honoring".

This mentality is already allowing me to look at every situation as an opportunity, rather than a chore, and I can feel the change beginning within me.

Below I've listed some activities that I chose into yesterday, and today, that I am considering "Self-honoring". Some below, and in the future, will not have time next to them, but will demonstrate how I chose to look at them differently.

 - Morning "Cross-Fit Style" workout - 20 min
 - 19th Century Style Wisdom Teeth removal, without anesthesia, just Novacaine - chose to look at it as saving $1500, that can go towards more "Self-honoring" activities
 - Watching 12th Century War Movie "Robin Hood".  I have been dying to watch this movie! - 2 hours
 - Writing this blog, I am beginning to love! - 1 hour

Grand Total to date: 5.33 hours

2 comments:

  1. I honor and support your goal of self-honoring. I hope to learn more about having fun! Thanks for being bold and sharing your story for the world to view. I love you and respect you.

    Mom

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  2. Brett,
    Love your activities so far. How about looking at self-honoring another way too. How about reflecting in the Greatness in you and letting others know about it? How would that fit?
    Michael

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